While I was deciding possible candidates for my first thedaytimehustle report interview I came upon Layan bubbly. A name that had occasionally popped up here and there in my time in the pick up community.For those of you unfamiliar with her she is an author, dating and empowerment coach.
I will admit I was initially hesitant to interview her as I wasn't sure whether she could contribute relevant advice taking into account our Indian audience, but turns out shes a favourite amongst Indians.We"ll get to that part in a bit.
So without further ado
TDTH: Why don't you briefly introduce yourself to our audience.
LB: Well I'm a dating coach in Canada who travels all over coaching men on how to basically take the lead. My philosophy is of a taking a holistic approach.I believe first one needs to empower themselves and get to know oneself better before investing themselves into a partner or partner's.
TDTH: What do you think is the major problem with our dating landscape.
LB: I think its all the social conditioning from movies, TV shows, social media and what not that makes peoples expectations from reality very idealistic and these realities just do not work in normal day to day life.
TDTH:What is the solution your opinion?
LB: You need to invest in yourself first, once you are happy and have some control over your emotion, family & finances then you can go on to invite people into your life . Another major issue is that of compatibility and chemistry between you and your partner and this very often goes neglected.
I guess to put it simply remember the four C's
Circumstances
Compatibility
Chemistry
Communication , you need to check all the boxes.
TDTH:What has your experience been with Indian clients and any specific advice for them?
LB: Oh Indians love me it probably has something to do with the fact that i look a little Indian myself.
Well correct me if I'm wrong but I feel in the Indian scenario there has been a lot of pressure on men to lead and women to follow. Also you are expected to live your life a certain way in communities which puts enormous pressure on both men and women and modern day feminism has made the men feel more powerless and intimidated than ever before.Hence the whole pick up movement.
TDTH: What do you think they should do?
LB: They need to understand that women still want to be led .To start with they need to start asking the right questions and then go on to empower himself.
Men need to take themselves out of an environment of social pressure and expectations and really explore himself, he shouldn't be afraid of exploring his dark side either as long as he is not hurting himself or others in the process.
TDTH:What are some books that you would recommend
LB: "The art of seduction" was a big influence in my life
"Rich Dad Poor Dad"
"The 4 hour work week" was amazing it has some great stuff
and my pride and joy my own book "Gentleman with an edge" because I believe men need to be chivalrous in today's post feminism era but with a touch of seduction
TDTH: Lastly what according to you is the most fundamental quality at the core of an attractive man
LB: I'm going to keep this very simple , it has to be without a doubt "honesty".
An honest man is very rare and in today's times where everyone has set up a fake persona an honest man is a gem and in my opinion women really value that
thats all folks
I suggest everyone go check out her page https://layanbubbly.com/ and go get her book now
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