Dating is something most people simply fall into . They live there lives in a daze with very little control over who they meet and allow into there lives. Think back to most of your social circle how many people did you actually screen and choose to meet .true some of the best experiences in our life happen when we let go of absolute control but that's not always a very good strategy especially when you are trying to hustle and build an empowering lifestyle as well as surround yourself with hustlers.
The way most of the people interact with the sexual marketplace is from that of a chaser's perspective ie they wait for a woman to either choose them or in some cases settle for them. They are so happy with the fact that they found themselves a partner that they not only break their personal boundaries but dont even bother enforcing them
Not only does this lead to relationship problems in the long term but it tends to stagnate your growth in every other area of your life and before you know it youre on your death bed with a long list of regrets
Most of the times the principal motivator is something as basic as attraction. In most cases people misinterpret arousal for love.
Do not fear love is a topic we will touch on later but we definitely shall
Dating in the modern world
with the advent of online technology and dating apps like tinder and okcupid has become even more mechanical and placed men in an even bigger chaser frame as women find themselves in position of abundance and men in a scarce position
There is something fundamentally wrong for a man to have to settle for less in my opinion
Further in our country there is a quite a taboo associated with openly discussing the issue of sex and sexuality.
Now for those of you who may not be aware the term sexuality is vastly different from sex and we shall go in depth about it later.
Parents do not take the initiative to have an enlightening talk with their sons or daughters about interacting within the sexual marketplace leading to long term frustrations and resentment amongst the sexes as they just assume that both sexes share the same motivations and value systems and so should behave the same way. Men assume that women should react and behave like men and vice versa with women. Look around you for a bit and see how most people settle and sure they do experience good times but most of the rome relatiomships seem like a chore
Go back amd recount some of your own experienes
Like when you were in a relationship and despite listening attentively you were told that you were not a good listener
You were told you were too controlling
And the worst she would be saying something but mean something else
Or if you were single
She would go for the asshole over you
She seemed to be giving all the right signals yet friendzoned you
She outrightly rejects you without even knowing you
So whose fault is this
Honestly it is the man's
Why do say that
Well because I believe its the mans job to take responsibility of the shoulders of the woman and take initiative and provide her with oppurtunities to be her best self and the sooner you accept that the better your dating life will be
So the question of the hour is what can one do immediately that is going to change your dating life immediately
1.accept there is a problem and see the world as it really is
Do not shame yourself for wanting to improve your dating life
2. Empathise with women
Realise men and women are two very different genders and you need to usee things from there poin of view
I would suggest the book men are from mars and women are from venus
3.change your mindset you need to be very open minded and realise that there is no reason why you are not enough
4.respect every one for there differences and be very non judgmental in your approach only then will she open up to you
5.trust in your faculties that you will handle any situation presented
6.be polite and honest
7.take a genine interest in people you are trying to meet
8.smile and provide genuone compliments do not flatter
9.provide them oppurtunities to get to know you
10.time is your greatest ally spend as much together possible
